Thursday, December 01, 2016
So you think Donald Trump is going to be good on LGBT issues? Sucker. Ignore what he says, but pay attention to who he appoints.
I hate to do this to you, but we have to be fully prepared to stop trump in his tracks. We have 4 years of this man. And that means we cannot bask in the glory of any of our past victories, we need to fight tooth and nail to protect them. So find your bottle of Tums (you'll need them) and check out Matt's latest clip. It will give you a good idea of what we are up against.
Monday, November 28, 2016
You may not cheer at a lynching or think you are a racist, but if you voted for trump, you just bought some rope and looked the other way.
Yes, I have been ignoring this blog for quite some time, and it is taking every last ounce of energy I have to post something right now. And no, I cannot take credit for the title of this post, that goes to Tess Rafferty and the clip included below.
I am so horrified, distraught, and filled with seething rage, I can barely string more than a few words together and make some sense. This election has left me in such despair that I can barely function. So I will not post much past this paragraph, but I will rely on two amazing women and one amazing man who have done a good job expressing what I cannot right now.
This first is a post by Betty Cracker. She wrote it at 4:45am the morning after the election. I imagine she was fueled by the same rage, despair, and lack of sleep most of us felt that tragic day after. But her rant is epic and pretty much captured everything I think many people were feeling that morning as well. Here is a taste (but please go read the whole thing):
First, a hearty FUCK YOU to every single person who voted for Trump, all 57,518,551 or so of you. Even if you don’t consider yourselves stone-cold racist, misogynist pricks like the president-elect, you’re as bad as he is. If you were stupid enough to believe that your vote “sent a message,” you’re right: By voting for that degenerate demagogue, you’ve displayed such depraved indifference to the fate of women, immigrants, people of color, people with disabilities, etc., that you’re now an honorary member of the Klan. So, put that fucking hood on, asshole.The second is a NY Times Op-Ed by Charles Blow. It too captures the intense emotions so many of us feel about this monster, donald trump, and the fact that he is going to be the next President of the United States. I am posting two snippets, but please go read the entire article:
And now let me introduce you to Tess Rafferty, someone I just happened to stumble upon in my post-election haze. She too, captured the essence of everything I am feeling. And I want to share her wisdom with you all as well. Watch and enjoy:
Aftermath November 2016 from Steve Cohen on Vimeo.
Monday, January 25, 2016
Sunday, December 06, 2015
Islam has been under huge scrutiny lately and is often criticised for being an aggressive religion... but what about Christianity? In this video they disguised a Bible as a Quran and read some of it's most gruesome verses to different people on the street. Listen to what they had to say.
Thursday, December 03, 2015
Wednesday, November 11, 2015
Friday, November 06, 2015
David Vitter may finally be getting his comeuppance - and this mama would like to be first in line to bid this sanctimonious fraud adieu
Back in 2003, then president, George W. Bush, was running for a second term on a platform that included a gay marriage ban, which was cosponsored by Senator David Vitter. This bill would have amended the U.S. Constitution and denied millions of law-abiding, tax-paying gay and lesbian Americans from getting married to the person they love. And Vitter was one of the 10 original sponsors of this nasty Federal Marriage Amendment. This was nothing more than a blatant and callous political strategy to whip up their far-right religious base into a frothy frenzy pretty much guaranteeing a good turn out at the polls and four more years of George W. Bush and his disastrous policies.
Now I know you are thinking to yourselves that this is nothing new for Republican politicians and you'd be right. But ... this is David Vitter we are talking about. When he was not waxing on about the "Sanctity of Marriage", he was bloviating ad nauseam about "Family Values", all while he was frequenting the DC Madam's prostitution service and the high-priced Canal Street brothel back in his home town. And it also came out that sex with prostitutes was not enough for Mr. Sanctimonious, he also like his home-town girls to make him wear diapers while doing the dirty deed. And if all of this is not enough, now there are rumors that Senator Sanctimonious may have fathered a love-child with one of his hometown prostitutes - not confirmed yet, but hey, where there's smoke there's fire.
So now on to the ad. It is short, it is brutal, and as John Cole noted on his blog, John Bel Edwards just opened a can of whoop-ass on Diaper Dave Vitter:
- Oh Senator David Vitter, do you really want to go there?
- Anthony Weiner has resigned, now it's Senator (diaper) David Vitter's turn
- Dear Senator David Vitter
- Another Sanctimonious Republican Hypocrite Caught with his Pants Down
- Not even God is going to be able to save this Republican Party
- Anthony vs David or why I'm heartbroken about Anthony, but furious about David
- Hey Louisiana, do you really want to re-elect this sanctimonious fraud?
- Show me, don’t tell me
Monday, October 26, 2015
NOTE: The letter below is not my creation. I found this on FreedHearts, a blog written by Susan Cottrell, a mother of five children including a queer daughter and a lesbian daughter. She is a veteran discipler, Vice President of PFLAG Austin, and she is getting her M.Div at Austin Seminary. FreedHearts is her full time ministry.
This is a bit long, but well worth the read. I am sure it will resonate with many of you.
I’m writing with a heavy heart about our family, the family I grew up in, which no longer accepts me. It’s so strange, this outside looking in. I’d never really considered that to be a possibility, that our family is negotiable—you can be born in it, but that doesn’t secure your place.
What’s more, I don’t expect you to change. Apparently, the preachers in your church and on TBN have more clout with you than I do—even though I’ve lived it, even though I’m your son. I admit that’s hard to take. I am beyond hoping that you will one day accept me…at least I think I’m beyond it. I’m not sure hoping to be restored to the family you grew up in ever leaves. But I write in hopes that you may be able to clear up some misunderstandings for me.
You have told me I am not welcome because I am gay. You’ve made that very clear. Even though I did not choose this (no matter what you may believe about that), even though I cannot change it (you and I both have prayed feverishly that this would change, but it has not), and even though I am not dating anyone (and all those years, I didn’t have a boyfriend), you still have your “standards.” You told me again and again. It just came as a shock to discover that these standards come above your flesh-and-blood son. I tell you, I really didn’t expect that. But far be it from me to ask you to overthrow your standards for the likes of me.
Help me understand, so that as I lay in my bed, alone and apart from all of you, I know what has happened here, why you decided I am not worthy to be part of the family.
As you know, your firstborn Jim has had multiple affairs, even getting another woman pregnant while he was married to his wife. (In fact, he’d divorced his first wife before he married her.) Yet, he is still welcome at the dinner table. You embrace him, not only after his divorce as you did, but despite his blatant and repeated “sexual sin.” Don’t get me wrong – I think you should embrace him! Because that is what family does. But please, help me understand why you embrace him and not me.
As you also know, my beloved sister—your beloved daughter Gina—is an alcoholic. You’ve “rescued” her many times, you even sent her to rehab for her own good. But no matter how many times she stumbles and falls, you have never once suggest excluding her from family events…events where you serve wine! (Sorry! I was just laughing at the irony there.
Jeremy was born with many physical ailments, which you have taken in stride. You have sacrificed greatly to provide opportunity for him. The surgeries, the physical therapy, the special equipment—none of that did you begrudge your son because he needed it. Of course you would provide it. Not many years ago people like him are shuttered away. I cringe to imagine it. I’m so glad that never happened to Jeremy—I love that sweet guy with all my heart. Thank God you’re there for him! Still, I’m left to reconcile your overextension of love for him that you couldn’t see clear to offer me.
And of course there was the porn you, found on the basement computer, Mom. No one ever owned up to it, and you were never really sure if it was Jim or Dad—none of us suspected Jeremy and it wasn’t Gina. And you knew for sure it wasn’t was me because, as I’ve been saying since I was 12, I am not attracted to girls. But whoever it was still sits at the family table for meals. And they should—we’re family. But why are they there and not me?
I don’t even want to mention the things you two went through, Mom and Dad, things that nearly cost your marriage. It was rough for those couple of years. Yet here you are! Still loving and supporting each other while all the, well, the incidents between you are all water under the bridge. I’m happy for you! I’m not begrudging a single act of grace and forgiveness! That is what family is supposed to be about.
I just don’t understand why you can’t extend that to me as well! Why, for the love of God, do you have grace and understanding and acceptance for EVERYONE but me? It makes no sense. And don’t blame God—YOU are the ones who have cut me out. It is your choice. Why? If you could answer that for me, it would help me sleep better. Because I can’t tell you how many nights I’ve cried my eyes out…I’m tired of crying.
And remember, by the way, this is not even about anything I am DOING wrong. It is about WHO I AM at the very core of my being. You are not upset with me, rejecting me, condemning me because of what I do, it is because who I am.
Personally, I don’t know how you can sleep at night. I don’t know how you can cut one of your children out of your lives and then carry on as if that is normal. IT’S NOT NORMAL TO CUT A CHILD OUT OF YOUR LIFE! Ask Aunt Joan if she would do anything to have her son back, drugs and all, instead of putting flowers on his grave. You know the answer to that. What is the matter with you people?
So you’ve left me to move on and to try not to think about you. You’ve left me to develop a life of my own. So when there is news to tell, like a boyfriend…or a wedding, rest assured I won’t be bothering you with it.
God has given me absolute peace and assurance in my heart that I am exactly who God made me to be—assurance I had to fight for, in the face of your ongoing condemnation, betrayal and rejection. Are you not able to just trust God with that, or do you think you know better?
If you only knew how big God’s love really is, if that love flowed freely through you, you wouldn’t reject me. You would accept me, embrace me, and unconditionally love me… as God has done with you… if you really grasped that love, deep in your bones.
You talk about God’s love but you don’t even begin to understand it.
If you ever have a change of heart, if you ever want me at the family table, you can let me know. I’ll be the one over here living my own life apart from you.
From Your Son (or daughter, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, grandchild…)
Saturday, October 10, 2015
Via The Human Rights Campaign: Coming out is a powerful tool we can all use to advance LGBT equality. In honor of National Coming Out Day this Sunday, we celebrate all those who have come out and bravely shared their true, authentic selves with the world.
It is so much harder to hate a real live person than a scary, nasty, evil concept. This is why the James Dobsons (Focus on the Family) of the world fought tooth and nail to keep schools from including glbtq kids in their anti-bullying policies. These so-called "family" organizations wanted the environments at schools to be so hostile and scary for glbtq kids that they would be too afraid to come out of the closet. Organizations like Focus on the Family knew that it is much easier to keep their true believers terrified of a faceless gay boogieman than that real live kid who sits next to your child in biology class.
So yes! Kick that door down. Lift that heavy burden from your shoulders. Come Out and Don't Look Back! Life is hard enough without having to hide such a big part of yourself.
Friday, October 09, 2015
Saturday, October 03, 2015
Oh how I wish someone could put that sanctimonious fraud & good ole boy, Mike Huckabee, in his place like this
Why is it that this only happens in Hollywood?
I am posting this just for the fun of it. Shaming sanctimonious religious frauds, who elevate themselves by demonizing and crushing others, is such a fantasy of mine. I know it won't happen, but a mama can dream - can't she?
Sunday, September 27, 2015
Let me come right out and apologize now because I know from past experience that I will definitely offend someone with what I am about to say. IF you are part of an organized religion that believes gays are an abomination, should be stoned, or demonizes them in any way, it is time to DUMP THAT RELIGION and NOT YOUR CHILD. End of story.
I know many are falling all over themselves praising Pope Francis, and yes, he is a refreshing change from Pope Benedict, but as long as Catholicism continues to perpetuate the myth that our LGBT brothers, sisters, children, friends, and neighbors are evil, the Catholic Church is no better than any other Church preaching such ignorant drivel. And the streets will continue to fill up with LGBT children discarded like trash.
So for me, I am holding the praise. Pope Francis's comment early on: "Who am I to judge?" was a good start, but it is NOT enough. He heads a church that does judge and until that stops, his words are only lip service.
According to the Ali Forney Center (where our donations go to):
“Over 200,000 LGBT youths are homeless in America. The biggest reason LGBT youths cannot remain in their homes is due to the religious beliefs of their parents."
"Every child deserves to be loved."
For a party that's so into hero worship, Right Wingers sure suck at picking the people they want to put up on that pedestal to adore and idolize. And who better to showcase it all than Bill Maher?
Thursday, September 17, 2015
Matt Baume has some insights on last night's CNN GOP Presidential debate #2 - when it came to discussing Kim Davis
I had a really tough time watching the debate last night. I finally had to turn it off. I just could not take all the hypocrisy and downright idiocy , especially from the god-bothering wing of candidates. Those clowns are constantly scare-mongering about Sharia law seeping into our legal system, but cannot see the irony of their own views on our legal system. It is scary how many of them would be just fine with absolutely no separation of Church and State and the country run as a strict Christian theocracy and one of them as Supreme Leader.
Tuesday, September 15, 2015
Monday, August 24, 2015
I am really happy John Oliver decided to tackle a huge misconception that's out there. Now that gay marriage is legal everywhere in the United States, nearly 70% of Americans believe that it is illegal to discriminate against gay people. But the sad and surprising truth is that it is actually still legal in 31 states to do just that. Gay people may be able to marry the person they love and that is wonderful, but until we pass laws that protect gay people from being fired, evicted, or refused service for no other reason than they are gay we should not rest. So yes, let's do celebrate the fact that marriage equality is now the law of the land, but let's not get too complacent yet. As long as restaurants kick gay people to the curb because they "don't like fags", florists and cake bakers refuse to supply their goods for gay weddings because they feel like they are participating in something they do not believe in, and pediatricians turn away the children of same-sex couples because it offends their religious beliefs, we'd better quit tipping the champagne and get back to work. We are definitely not done yet.
Friday, August 14, 2015
Watch Matt Baume's fascinating analysis of the evolution of gays' roles in television from the 70's on through the 80's. Matt really puts it all into perspective. I just wish he'd showcased more shows and more decades - taking it right on up to the present. This is a most enjoyable watch. Take the 7 minutes it takes to watch this, you'll be glad you did.
Tuesday, August 11, 2015
The Mexican Supreme Court on Tuesday ruled a law in the state of Campeche that bans same-sex couples from adopting children is unconstitutional.The 9-1 decision comes against the backdrop of the debate over marriage rights for same-sex couples that continues to gain momentum in the country.
Friday, August 07, 2015
Well worth the time. It's fun watching Matt hold the usual suspects' feet to the fire.
Note: Matt is not as happy with John Kasich's response as I was (in the post below). I guess I'm just so starved for all gay issues to no longer be issues at all for this goofball Party that I'll take whatever I can get.
My my, what a difference a few years can make. Megyn Kelly asks John Kasich what he would do if one of his children was gay. And Kasich answers from the heart. And that answer was music to this mama's ears, but even more therapeutic was the audience's reaction to his response. One thing is for sure, there's certainly been a sea change in attitudes on this subject in the past few years. Huffington Post recaps an ugly incident back in 2011 that still hurts to recall:
The crowd cheered Kasich’s response. The reaction contrasted starkly with a 2011 Republican presidential debate in which audience members booed Army Capt. Stephen Hill, a gay combat veteran, for speaking favorably about the repeal of the military's "don't ask, don't tell" policy.
I am not going to look a gift horse in the mouth, but I wish Republicans weren't such slow learners. The agony they've caused so many ...
Update: Arghs! I forgot how hideous Rick Santorum was as well. What a sanctimonious buffoon! Here is the clip of that ugly 2011 incident.
Wednesday, August 05, 2015
Friday, July 24, 2015
First time in a long time that I've enjoyed me some Fire and Brimstone.
Sure wish there were more pastors like this one around.
Tuesday, July 21, 2015
Freedom to Marry's victory celebration video takes us down memory lane. This is their going-out-of-business gift to us all. So savor the sweet, sweet victory, but let us never forget all the warriors who helped make this happen.
We are not done yet though. We must continue our fight for protections against discrimination in the workplace, housing, and public accommodations. We must limit the reach of religious-liberty claims to churches and their clergy. And finally, we must fight for full equal treatment under the law and equal access to opportunities.
There will always be culture wars, religious zealots and godbotherers who will never accept our beloved glbt loved ones. So savor this victory, but remember, resting on our laurels is NOT an option.
Speaking of religious zealots, how bout crazy Uncle Pat? He is wasting no time showing us good Christian love and acceptance of our glbt loved ones. Now he is claiming (among other things) that the gay marriage ruling legalizes love affairs between men and animals. But remember, even though this is what we have come to expect from this nutcase, we should never laugh it off, there is always a receptive audience for this kind of ugly hate.
Monday, July 20, 2015
I have a huge soft spot in my heart for this show. Back when it was in its original run, my children were 4, 6, & 7 years old. We would watch this show together. And yes, there were some scenes that may have been considered a touch racy, but that just sparked questions and discussion, which I never thought was a bad thing. I wanted my children to feel comfortable asking me anything. And I definitely did NOT want them sheltered from the realities of life. Golden Girls often provided the perfect opening for us to talk.
It was 1991 and way too early to know that one of my children would one day come out as gay, but scenes like this one below were just the kind of thing I wanted to discuss with them. I had many gay friends when I was in high school and college and I knew that there was a chance one of my children could be gay, but I also knew that it was a certainty that they would have gay children and adults in their lives as well. Either way, I did not want them starting their lives with ugly stereotypes and biases. Who better to help me with that than four lovely grandmotherly ladies like Sophia Petrillo, Rose Nylund, Dorothy Zbornak, and Blanche Devereaux?
Sunday, July 19, 2015
Hey Scottie, stop being such a chickensh*t and answer the damn question. Do you believe that being gay is a choice? By dodging and ducking this question, you look like big cowardly idiot. And if you finally find the testicular fortitude to answer yes to this question, I'd like to know the exact day, date, and time of your decision to be straight. A decision that momentous surely has to be seared into even your pea-sized brain.
What an A**hole!
Thursday, July 16, 2015
|Photo via US Uncut|
Some very moving testimony at this hearing. Pay close attention to the Texas Mama who fiercely defends her "Princess Boy". Her love and support (and courage) are so inspiring. Every child should be so lucky.
And then there is the other side of the argument. And all I can do is sigh. I just wish people could comprehend the concept of "Separation of Church and State", but alas, there will always be some who just have to shove their religious crap into the public sphere. I suppose I just have to accept that this is the way it is always going to be, but good lord that pious godbothering sure gets old and nauseating.
Maybe someone should suggest to that one lady that she spend more time at the "libary" brushing up on the First Amendment to the Constitution of the United States.
Wednesday, July 15, 2015
Way to go Conan O'Brien:
You know, one does have to wonder about some of these crazy right-wing religious homophobes who spend so much time obsessing and raging about gay sex. Pat Robertson is not the only one who sets off my gaydar warning bells, either. Are you listening James Dobson, Tony Perkins, Bryan Fischer and way too many more of you to call out by name, but you know who you are.
Monday, July 13, 2015
Former Secretary of Defense Robert Gates: “We must deal with the world as it is, not as we might wish it to be”
The ban on gay children participating in the Boy Scouts program ended 2 years ago, but not unanimously - in that vote 61% of approximately 1,400 voting members of the BSA National council voted to end the ban barring gay youth from participating in the BSA program.
My bet is that in a few years, people will look back on this era and shake their heads in disbelief at the cruelty directed at these young kids and adults affected by such blatant ignorant discrimination.
As I have mentioned in years past, I have 2 sons, one gay and one straight. Both were Boy Scouts from first grade on (well Cub Scouts in their younger years, Boy Scouts in their older years). Both boys achieved their Eagle Scout, the highest rank attainable in the Boy Scouting program, an honor not many boys hang in there long enough to attain.
I am grateful to see progress happen, but sad to think that anyone could have thought a ban on children was ever something God would have sanctioned. But then again, religion has been used over the millennia to justify cruel and hurtful things done unto others, so nothing new here.
UPDATE: There is an exemption for troops organized by religious organizations.
That sucks a bit. Damn!
Sunday, July 12, 2015
I discussed this subject a few days ago when I posted an article by Michael Lind titled How the South Skews America. And now I see that one of my favorite radio commentators, Thom Hartmann, is to my extreme delight, taking this subject on as well. I just wish he'd dump the right wingers from the panel though.
Honest to gawd, I'd love to see the Southern states secede. They've been mooching, bible thumping, parasites sucking at the teet of America for way too long. (And yes! I know my state is just as bad.)
Wednesday, July 08, 2015
|From the Southern Poverty Law Center|
I have often wished (silently-of course) that the South had succeeded in seceding. I am not sorry to say this, even though I know there are many wonderful and decent people who live in the South, but they seem to be the silent minority, or maybe unable to out-scream the loud-mouth bigots and sanctimonious frauds that for me, define the South. And now I am thrilled to say I've found an article by Michael Lind that explains better than I can why I feel the way I do about the South. I don't feel so alone anymore. It is a great read so go read the whole thing. I cannot do it nearly the justice it deserves by excerpting (though I will, just to get you hooked):
Every year the Fourth of July is marked by ringing affirmations of American exceptionalism. We are a special nation, uniquely founded on high ideals like freedom and equality. In practice, however, much of what sets the United States apart from other countries today is actually Southern exceptionalism. The United States would be much less exceptional in general, and in particular more like other English-speaking democracies such as Britain, Canada, Australia and New Zealand were it not for the effects on U.S. politics and culture of the American South.
I don’t mean this in a good way. A lot of the traits that make the United States exceptional these days are undesirable, like higher violence and less social mobility. Many of these differences can be attributed largely to the South.
But even by the standards of the English-speaking world, the U.S. appears as an extreme outlier, in areas ranging from religiosity to violence to anti-government attitudes. As we learned after the slaughter last month in Charleston, S.C., some deluded Southerners still pine for secession from the Union. Yet no doubt there are also more than a few liberal Northerners who would be happy to see them go.
Minus the South, the rest of the U.S. probably would be more like Canada or Australia or Britain or New Zealand—more secular, more socially liberal, more moderate in the tone of its politics and somewhat more generous in social policy. And it would not be as centralized as France or as social democratic as Sweden.
Religiosity is one example of American exceptionalism among English-speaking countries that is largely the result of Southern exceptionalism within the United States. “We don’t do God,” Tony Blair’s aide Alastair Campbell famously remarked, emphasizing that religion is kept out of the public sphere in modern-day Britain. In most modern English-speaking countries, voters find ostentatious piety on the part of political candidates troubling, not reassuring. But in the U.S., born-again Southern evangelical politicians like Jimmy Carter and George W. Bush who troll for votes with piety have given U.S. presidential politics a flavor more reminiscent of Tehran than of London or Ottawa or Canberra. According to Gallup, in 2014 the most religious Americans were all found in Southern states, with the exceptions of Mormon Utah and semi-Southern Oklahoma. Mississippi led the nation in zeal.
Southern violence also goes a long way toward explaining the exceptional violence of the United States in general compared to otherwise similar countries. The pre-modern “culture of honor” continues to exist to a greater degree in the South. White Southerners are more likely than white northerners to respond to insults with increased testosterone and aggression, according to social scientists. According to the FBI in 2012, the South as a region, containing only a quarter of the population, accounted for 40.9 percent of U.S. violent crime.
Compared to other Americans, Southerners disproportionately support sanctioned violence in all of its forms, from military intervention abroad to capital punishment to corporal punishment of children. According to Gallup, Southern households have a far higher rate of gun ownership (38 percent) than households in the East (21 percent), Midwest (29 percent) or West (27 percent).
I ended up snipping way more than I intended, but it is just so good it deserves to be read in full. So go do it!